M/s versus D/s

I got an explanation of the difference between a Master/slave relationship and a Dominant/submissive relationship today. It was an eye opening experience. In a D/s relationship it truly is the sub who is in charge of things. There are hard limits, soft limits, contracts  and safe words. A friend of mine actually had these words said to him by a sub looking to him to be her Dom…

“As Your sub, I trust that You won’t leave permanent marks or even non-permanent ones in places where they might be seen, or, actually any marks anywhere, unless I pre-approve the type of mark and precise location; I trust that You will take me to sub-space and then gently, gingerly, lovingly guide me back down and give me warm, soft, sensual after-care until I’m back from my blissful abyss; I trust that You will be weary of my red zones, be knowledgeable of my hot spots and will learn my body, inside and out, so as to better permit me to cum like a screaming banshee…like any good sub should.”

How incredibly selfish. There is no give and take in this kind of relationship. It is solely about the sub and her needs. I can’t pursue a relationship like this. It just isn’t in me to be this selfish. Yes of course I enjoy an orgasm just as much as the next girl, but it is far more than that for me. There is a give and take, a sweet dance of surrender that plays through a good relationship.

I spent some time mulling over the above and changed it to reflect my own thoughts.  Part of the letting go for me is opening up myself completely. More like an “As Your slave, i trust that You will do as You see fit to my body because that is Your right as my Master. i trust that should You choose to, You will throw me over the edge into subspace, but that You will make me sit up and take a drink when i need to. i trust that You will find my limits if i have them and push them to the extreme. i trust that if You break me, You had a reason even if it was just to see if You could do it.” I had thought that I was submissive, but this is not so.

I am a slave to my Master.

Waiting For Release

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